Finding Your King

How would your partner behave in front of others?


It is a piercing question, how does your partner conduct themselves in your absence?  In our time when cheating is common practice it is hard to find someone who really loves you for who you are.

Esther was blessed to be selected by her King, you will too and in the mean time waste no time nor be found beneath men beneath your moral code.

Be wise and learn the signs of a cheater so you waste no time kissing frogs.

Studies indicate that most men give themselves away when they cheat and they are likely to have an affair with someone he already knows, either from the women he normally comes in contact with, or even business associates. Try to be observant, as at times your partner may behave strangely in front of these people.

Here’s a fact sheet on how to catch a cheater:

According to the dictionary, infidelity means unfaithfulness to a sexual partner, and in layman terms this simply means that your girlfriend / wife or your boyfriend/husband could be cheating on you for someone else. No marriage, no matter how rich, religious, political or powerful, is immune to the threat of unfaithfulness, so say experts who give advice on how to survive infidelity.

Relationship Infidelity

Infidelity in a marriage or in relationship is a bitter pill to swallow. Not simply because we strive to make our relationships thrive and survive in an all-challenging world, but because nobody, including you, can live along successfully with this lie and if infidelity creeps into your bed thinking it will not happen in your relationship will not stop it from happening.

Relationship infidelity is cruel and shows no mercy to the one left out in the cold. It doesn’t really matter if you are married or attached; it is a symbol of the worst betrayal known and the infidelity is a symbolic of having your deepest fears and doubts exposed.

The infidelity statistics released by shine a shocking light on the situation:

Percentage of marriages that end in divorce in America: 53%

Percentage of “arranged marriages” (where parents pick their sons or daughters spouses) that end in divorce: 3%

Medical field(s) with the highest divorce rate: psychiatrists and marriage counselors

Percentage of marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional: 41%

Percentage of men who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they’ve had: 57%

Percentage of women who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they’ve had: 54%

Percentage of men and women who admit to having an affair with a co-worker: 36%

Percentage of men and women who admit to infidelity on business trips: 36%

Percentage of men and women who admit to infidelity (emotional or physical) with a brother-in-law or sister-in-law: 17%

Average length of an affair: 2 years

Percentage of marriages that last after an affair has been admitted to or discovered: 31%

Percentage of men who say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught: 74%

Percentage of women who say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught: 68%

If any part of you is curious, confronting your lovers “point blank,” will not yield your answers. There are some ways to put your mind at ease for once and for all if you suspect that your spouse (partner) is cheating you for another woman.

How to catch a cheater

Sudden good appearance:

First impressions always count. Remember when you and your mate first met. Remember that if his ward robe habits suddenly change. It is often one of the first the best telltale sign on whether your partner is trying to impress or attract someone.

Is your partner treating you differently?

When your partner is involved with someone else, they will begin to treat you differently. Even on the subconscious level, this could be detrimental to your current relationship. Hence, it is easy for you to pick up this alarming sign when the time comes.

More overtime?

Let’s face it. How many of us who are working for people would rather stay in the office till wee hours rather than be relaxing at home. That is if we like going home. Most men will use working overtime as a way to stay away from home.

Look for long hours and short paychecks.

No time! No time! No time!

Just as infidelity cost your partner money, it may as well ended up causing your lovers time. Remember that we are all granted by God only 24 hours a day. So it’s not surprising that your partner would try to steal the time away from you just to be with his lover.

Business traveling.

Travelling for business is the most common excuses for the cheating lovers as well as being the best get away from you. Even if your lover really on business traveling; it is often the best practice to take that person with them while away.

Telephone conversion behavior

More often than not, illicit affairs often take place through the phone. Many foolish lovers take the risk of calling their partners at home or having their partners call them at home. Much to my surprise, many husbands ended up discovering their partners’ infidelity either directly or indirectly by the telephone.

Your dwindling sex life

Let’s face it. The moment your partner goes after a secret lover, do you think he might be interest in you? Even if so your sex partners and life will change if he is cheating

Smell like an animal!

Each person has his or her own unique smell or taste. At first, you might not notice it, but when the time comes, you would feel completely different smell or taste. Remember that every lover out there would do anything to make their first impression better? It could be their bodily smell or cologne which may attract to each other which is the reason behind the change of smell. Friendly advice, be on close guard. This is a warning sign for you.

Invasion of your home:

It’s quite common for your partner to end up with her lover in your home. When this happens, pay close attention to all the items or belongings which were left behind. Scour and collect these crucial evidence in everywhere in your house that you could possible imagine.

Gifts but not from you?

At times you would end up finding gifts which were not from you. Look out for these telltale signs especially near Valentine’s Day or Christmas. If they are not from you, then who else?

Email usage

What does it tell you that all of a sudden you see your partner having an interest in using the computer? What else does this indicate when he’s using more emails than he is talking to you? Chances are this may as well indicate the involvement of his online or cyber affair. Don’t take this lightly as most of the time these affairs can be detrimental to your marriage. Emotional attachment can be extremely strong, and could progress from cyberspace to physical reality.

Sudden spike in the telephone bills.

With the advent of technology advancement in telecommunications, it’s no wonder that life has been easier for both you and your partner to communicate at any point of time. But beware; this could also be a great opportunity for your partner to stay in touch of her secret lover.

The physical evidence waiting to be found.

By majority the physical evidence that indicates a lover’s secret life can be easily found in front of our eyes. When your partner is not available, check her handbags, her wastepaper basket, her filling cabinets, drawers, or any other sort of place you could think of. Keep your eyes open.



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